Intersectionality, Cultural Attunement & Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I've been thinking a great deal recently about the concept of Intersectionality (for those of you unfamiliar this is the concept of...
Modern Issues in the Transitions to Parenthood: Using Mindfulness to Stay Connected with Your Partne
One of my clients recently had a baby, and a few months ago she said something to the effect of, “My husband and I are really trying, but...
What do you do in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?
I’m always looking for ways to explain and talk about what happens in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) so I was really excited...
A Shout Out to all Men coming to Couples Therapy! (especially with a female therapist!)
Yesterday I was meeting with my Perinatal Consultation group and our topic for the month was “Postpartum Couples”. We had a really...
"Your task is not to seek for love...."
This past week I volunteered at a conference for psychotherapists learning the model of couples therapy I practice called Emotionally...
"You scowl because you have indigestion and fourteen people feel inadequate."
As a couples therapist, the question of “fault” comes up quite frequently. Couples in distress are typically wondering – which one of us...
Basic Goodness: The Practice that makes all the difference in conflict
In my 10 week group, The Mindful Couple, we just finished week 5 and in this round of the group I’ve introduced the concept and practice...
Relationships are life's best seat belts
This past week I had the privilege of attending a 4 day training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) with Susan Johnson who wrote...
Why look at the past in psychotherapy?
“Whenever we give up, leave behind, and forget too much, there is always the danger that the things we have neglected will return with...
What to say to get your partner to come to couples therapy
A common scenario among couples is that both are aware that they have a hard time communicating about certain things – be it finances,...