Attachment Mix Tape Track #6 – “Flagship” by Jason Isbell

Share Hi Everybody! I recently discovered the artist, Jason Isbell, on the NPR podcast, All Songs Considered. I love this song by him essentially recognizing the preciousness of what he shares with his partner now and seeing the negative impact of not taking care of his relationship over time. One of the best lines of the song is about a couple he observes across the room: “She’s...
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Modern Issues in the Transitions to Parenthood: Using Mindfulness to Stay Connected with Your Partner

Hi Everybody! One of my clients recently had a baby, and a few months ago she said something to the effect of, “My husband and I are really trying, but even so, it’s really hard to know what’s going on with each other! How on earth do couples stay connected after having a baby?” Such a great question! That sense of not really knowing what’s going on with your partner is one of the main...
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Attachment Mix Tape – Track #5 “You were always on my Mind”

ShareHi Everybody! Last week a colleague sent me a link to a blog called “Must Be This Tall to Ride” https://mustbethistalltoride.com/. It’s written by a man whose wife divorced him to his great surprise. The blog is about all the relationship lessons and things about himself he has learned in the wake of this painful break-up. I’m so moved by his courage to share in this...
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What do you do in EFT couples therapy?

Share Hi Everyone! I’m always looking for ways to explain and talk about what happens in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) so I was really excited recently when a colleague sent me this clip of a variety show that aired in the early 1950′s called “Your Show of Shows”.  Among the sketches, it featured a couple played by Sid Caeser and Imogene Coca.  I’m so...
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The Attachment Mix Tape – Track 3: How Deep is your Love?

ShareHi Everyone! I hope your January is going well so far! One thing that happened in 2015 is my beloved iPod (the classic) was stolen after someone broke into my car. (Lesson learned – never leave anything of value in your car!) After this, I had one of my first, and I know it won’t be my last, “old person” moments where I learned they don’t make the iPod classic...
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A Shout Out to all Men coming to Couples Therapy! (especially with a female therapist)

Hi Everyone! Share Yesterday I was meeting with my Perinatal Consultation group and our topic for the month was “Postpartum Couples”.  We had a really interesting discussion about some of the relationship patterns that we commonly see in couples struggling with the transition to parenthood.  Postpartum women feeling incredibly angry with their male partners was discussed at length,...
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